A Good Goodbye: Memorial & Funeral Planning That Feels Authentic

When someone dies, the people left behind are often grieving, overwhelmed, and unsure of what to do next. In the middle of their heartbreak, they’re suddenly faced with hundreds of decisions—and no clear map.

The Empowered Estate focuses on memorial and funeral preplanning as a powerful, compassionate act of love, for the people who want and need to honour you and carry your memory on.

We’re here to help you plan the goodbye that reflects you: your values, your wishes, your story.


Memorials Can Be Personal and Modern

Memorials don’t have to follow the same script your grandmother’s did. Today, they can be whatever feels meaningful and true to you:

  • A backyard celebration with music and food
  • A quiet, intimate gathering in nature
  • A creative ceremony led by someone who knows you

We love exploring the many ways people are re-imagining memorials. They don’t have to be religious. They don’t have to be formal. But they can be deeply personal, supportive to your loved ones, and healing for your community.

Why Preplanning Matters

Funeral and cremation preplanning is more about clarity than just logistics.

By writing down your preferences, whether for burial, cremation, or something else, you relieve your family of the pressure to make expensive, emotional decisions.

You give them structure and a plan to follow.

Breadcrumbs that help them honour you without second-guessing.

Don’t think of it as controlling how you’re remembered. It’s more about offering a clear foundation, so your people can focus on grieving, remembering, and supporting one another.

The Empowered Estate planner offers a way to communicate your preferences clearly and kindly: what you want, what you don’t want, and how you want people to feel when they gather in your honour.

An Invitation: Let’s Do This Together

Planning ahead doesn’t have to be overwhelming. In fact, we believe it can be empowering (and even uplifting) when you have the right tools and community.

In our Accountability Parties we walk through practical steps, share stories, and give you space to document your wishes, simply and thoughtfully. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just show up and we’ll guide you.

Want a one-on-one conversation to talk things through?

Book a free 30-minute call with Karla to explore what preplanning your end-of-life wishes could look like for you. No pressure, no sales pitch, just real talk about what matters most.


Let’s get clear on what we want—and make it easier for the people we love.
Because a well-planned goodbye is one of the kindest gifts we can leave behind.

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The Empowered Estate | Your Canadian End-of-Life Planning Experts!

Shelley Essery, Certified Executor Advisor and Karla Kerr, Licensed Funeral Director & Death Doula

As a Certified Executor Advisor and a Licensed Funeral Director and Death Doula, we help you get your affairs in order so your family can grieve your loss without administrative overwhelm. Create peace of mind for yourself & loved ones with our comprehensive, practical Canadian estate planning guide and workshops.